We all start off telling ourselves: “I just want what’s best for my child.”
But somewhere between filing motions and responding to accusations, something shifts.
We stop parenting from love… and start parenting from fear.
Welcome to the Battlefield
Divorce doesn’t always turn co-parents into enemies overnight.
The courtroom does.
And it happens faster than you’d think.
It starts with a lawyer’s warning: “Document everything.”
Then it becomes: “Don’t say too much.”
And finally: “You need to protect yourself.”
The system doesn’t nurture healing, it rewards battle.
And the longer you’re in it, the easier it becomes to forget what you were fighting for in the first place.
The Transformation You Never Saw Coming
You’ve seen it happen. Maybe it’s happened to you.
A parent who once wanted peace starts picking fights.
They become calculated, cold, obsessed with “wins” and “losses” like it’s a sport.
They weaponize text messages, turn everyday parenting moments into exhibits, and twist facts
until they barely resemble reality.
Not because they’re evil.
But because the court conditions them to think this is survival.
And in a way? It is.
Because in family court, showing your humanity often feels like a liability.
The Real Casualty: The Child
The worst part?
The child becomes an afterthought in a case that bears their name.
Their well-being is filtered through legal terms, paperwork, and hours of testimony.
They’re spoken about constantly, but rarely to.
And when one parent starts to spiral into the courtroom mentality?
The child feels it, even if they don’t understand it.
They feel the tension, the bitterness, the fear.
They absorb it.
It Doesn’t Have to Be This Way
The legal system is flawed, but it’s not the only villain.
We have to be accountable too.
We have to catch ourselves before we get lost in the fight.
Before we start seeing our co-parent as an enemy instead of a human being.
Before we start collecting “evidence” instead of offering compassion.
Before we forget who we were before the courtroom got its claws in us.
Because once you go too deep into that battlefield mentality, it’s hard to find your way back.
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Have you watched someone change through the court process?
Have you caught yourself becoming someone you didn’t recognize?
The system is hard enough, let’s stop pretending we’re alone in how much it affects us.
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